Saturday, January 24, 2009


This is a list of 25 things about me. I composed it on facebook and decided to share it here. It's not a perfect list of 25 things about me, but it's satisfactory.

1. I have 5 beautiful foster kittens living with me

2. In February I will take the California Bar Exam

3. My first little nephew, Silas was born a year ago. I watched the birth and even video taped it. Best movie I ever made!

4. I've been married for 3 months

5. My dad performed the ceremony

6. My wife made me cry during her vows

7. I wish I liked tofu more

8. Some days I feel like a loser

9. I have one earlobe that is bigger than the other

10. I like chocolate more than I let on

11. Grammatical mistakes make me lose respect for people

12. I am trying to not be so judgmental

13. Really, I am working on it!

14. I keep a blog; some posts are better than others

15. I've recently realized that I want to have a baby...come out of me....not just adopt

16. I love green bell peppers

17. I've made some mistakes in life

18. I think about the people I love dying; this is a very recent thing

19. My bedroom is painted deep orange

20. I took my wife's last name

21. It would be nice to set some goals for myself

22. Goal number one: set goals

23. I wish I was a better singer, dancer, writer and artist. I don't wish I was a better person

24. This list is difficult to write

25. I feel so lucky to live the life I live

When B was put to the challenge, this is how she described 25 things about herself.

1. My left nipple is pierced.

2. I chew my nails... a lot.

3. I chew my pen caps, too.

4. I love poker.

5. I love my wife (married 10/25.)

6. I am generally lazy.

7. Goal 1 - try to be less lazy.

8. Goal 2 - impregnate my wife. We want to have a baby.

9. Goal 3 - get rid of crap in attic and don't need it, but someone else might, hello Craigslist.

10. I just recently lost 40lbs.

11. I gained some back, but only about 5lbs.

12. My wife amazes me more and more each day. I believe she is a very strong and good hearted woman.

13. This amazement makes me cry sometimes.

14. I have 2 nieces and 3 nephews. So cool.

15. I want to be a poker dealer.

16. I do the laundry and clean the kitchen after dinner. My wife does most of the cooking. She doesn't fold clothes well and I don't cook well so it all works out.

17. I screw up my grammer often, to the bane of my wife.

18. My favorite movie is Wizard of Oz. But Butch Jamie is a close second :)

19. I own a Barry Manilow cd. Ssssshhhhh

20. I love Buffy the Vampire Slayer (I own the entire series) and can rewatch it over and over.

21. Ditto Queer as Folk.

22. I want to be Brian Kinney.

23. After I die, I want to come back as a hot gay man.

24. I wish my parents would support my marriage.

25. I hope that in my lifetime, marriage is for everyone and no one has to "come out" anymore.

Thursday, January 22, 2009


I don't have much time to write these days but I have a need to see my blog change more often than once a week. The solution is to post pictures of people I love.

Journal of a girl investing time to better place herself in the world

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

A quote that speaks to me

I distrust those who know so well what God wants them to do, because I notice it always coincides with their own desires.

Susan B. Anthony

I've been wrestling lately with religion and the way religion is so misused by some to keep others down. I don't understand when God became so hateful. Why would people want their God to be hateful?

Journal of a sad believer

Friday, January 16, 2009

Honeymoon Rainbows

We spotted our first rainbow as we were flying into Antigua. For the next couple of days they seemed to follow us.


Today the high here was a sweltering 11 degrees. Double digits for the first time in days. I was dreaming of being here all day today.

Our little heaven was perfect.

But, back to reality.....

Journal of a few words

Friday, January 9, 2009

OK, about time for another honeymoon post

Alrighty, I've been a little sparse on the posts lately. Since nothing worth mentioning is happening around here, I will continue with the honeymoon recap.

One of our most romantic afternoons was spent with 2 other wonderful the Spa! B and I splurged on a couples champagne massage at the gorgeous Red Lane Spa.

After having a drink in the waiting area and changing into our robes we met our individual massesuses who led us to our couples massage room. The room was large and warm and had an awesome shower with lots of nozzles, a large bathtub and two massage tables. We were first treated to a body scrub that was supposed to make our skin beautiful - don't know if that happened, but the scrub sure took off a few layers of my less than beautiful skin to expose whatever was beneath. B enjoyed the scrub more than I did. The scrubby stuff is very sticky and coarse and so we had to rinse off in the luxurious shower. Very nice.

And then the massage....wonderful! Loved laying next to my girl and peering over whenever I had the chance. After the massage we headed over to the jacuzzi bathtub to snuggle, drink champagne and eat some fruit. But first our girls took some pics of us in the tub.

Now, it's kind of weird to have someone take your picture while in the bathtub with your sweetie and ever weirder when they give you directions and pose suggestions...

We then took the rest of our champagne out to the lounging area and took some time to relax and reflect. Here is the lounging area before we (and our beautiful new skin) arrived.

And after.

My favorite dining experience at Sandals turned out to be the beach barbeque. Not only was the setting awesome but it was the best food we had at the resort. A huge space was set with tables and chairs on the beach and another huge space was set up with the gorgeous buffet including huge grills for the chicken, ribs, fish and vegetables.

My absolute favorite dish was the paella - I went back so many times for more that the chef eventually demanded a picture with me. Check out that pan!

I was also lucky enough to have my picture taken with a pirate (a new take on half black half white).

All the pics of B and I at the barbeque bash turned out blurry. But, I thought I'd include one that will really hurt your eyes (you can even make it bigger to cause more damage!)

After dinner we played a game and won and then headed over to the entertainment area. Our winnings: a bottle of rum and sandals necklaces.

The entertainment that night was a fire eating/holding limbo act. Interesting.

Thanks for reading! Hi mom!
Journal of a wife planning a bright future

Monday, January 5, 2009

Welcome 2009!!

Happy New Year!
We went to a fabulous club this year to dance in the new year and had the pleasure of being joined by Michelle for a rockin' good time.

I never make resolutions, but I do hope and dream about the things that I want to happen within the next year. So here they are:

1. pass the CA bar
2. move to Cali
3. find a job that I am really happy with
4. support B in finding a job she is really happy with
5. get pregnant
6. come to a thoughtful understanding with B's parents
7. buy some really stylish shoes
8. visit Silas often
9. stop worrying about and resenting my student loan payment
10. take walks on the beach
11. read more good books
12. write more
13. check myself often to make sure I am making smart decisions
14. find a group of like-minded friends who are FUN!
15. expand my online friend community
16. laugh with B every day

Journal of an optimist